Hello beautiful people,
I hope that all of you are having a beautiful day.
I thought I’d share one of the biggest lessons that I gained in 2017, and that is that you become the average of the 5 people that you spend time with. I have heard that before, but it was does year that I really, truly realised that it was true, and how important it is to choose your friends.
Earlier this year I realised that I wasn’t spending time with the right people, and that the way they were behaving started being reflected in me, and that needed to change. I am all about self-love right now, and I’m very grateful for the bad experiences that I’ve had with the wrong people, because that wouldn’t have gotten me to live life deliberately and start reading all the books and articles on self-love and self-development that I’ve read.
Now, one of the cutest and most beneficial activities I’ve practiced while going through this “living a life of deliberate intention” phase, is to write a love list for friends. If you don’t know what love lists are, they are basically a very specific list of the qualities that you want in a partner, and there are a lot of success stories proving that after you make this list, you will find the love of your life! I thought the idea was really cute, and if you could make a list for a romantic partner, why not make a list for true friends?
And so I got my journal and written pages of the qualities that I wanted in my friends, because I know that they would mirror me, and I would mirror them, and if you want to succeed, you have to surround yourself with people that would bring you in that direction, right?
Now I have to say, I left my toxic “friend” group really early this year, maybe January or February, and it was tough at first to adjust to the drastic changes of being around them all the time to not being around them at all, but the discomfort was only for a short while. I knew I needed to love myself and I knew what I deserved. And I deserve the best, just like every single one of us do. You not only deserve the best romantic relationship, you also deserve the best friendships. A few weeks after I left this group and started loving myself more (and by that I mean only surrounding myself with people that have the qualities that I like), I had already seen amazing positive changes, and 2017 became the best year of my life so far. I think it helps because once you write down your list, you start to consciously look for those characteristics in people surrounding you, and weed out those that you don’t want.
One of the key things to remember when making this list is to make sure that all the words you use are positive. Avoid using “don’t” or “not” or anything of that nature, because then you wouldn’t be focusing on what you want, but instead on what you don’t want. Your subconscious mind does not know the difference between positive and negative, so whatever you feed it, it will accept it anyway, and you want to feed it positive things. Only mention the qualities that you DO want, mention the emotions that you WANT to feel when you’re with them.
Here are some of the things that I added to my friendship list:
- Loves to read
- Exercises regularly and eats healthy
- Loves to travel
- Practices positive thinking, creative visualisation, law of attraction, self love, Neville Goddard, etc
- Creative and artistic
- Ambitious and professional
- Lives in the moment
Btw, I already found my true group of friends! It WORKS!